It's giveaway time - as part of Sew Mama Sew! Giveaway Day! Up for grabs is a set of three fat quarters - all very bright and cherry and just in time for upcoming summer!
There's a yellow stripe, a red/green/yellow plaid and a bright and a cheery floral!
What do you need to do to win this? Well, as I'm getting married in twenty days - leave me a comment with a piece of advice about how to have a great marriage. I look forward to reading your advice. I'll have the random number generator (better known as the fiancee - who will be told "pick a number between 1 and ###) pick a winner. And this will stay open through 10 pm on Thursday, May 20th. I'm more than happy to ship internationally, too.
Thanks for stopping by!
I know it's a cliche but talking.
ReplyDeleteAlso try to see it from the person point of view - just because you are upset doesn't mean it is their fault. Crying on their shoulder might prove a better way to solve the problem than screaming or sulking.
And try to be polite and kind to one another. A simple 'Hi, darling' after a hard day can make you feel like a million dollars.
Thanks for a great giveaway I hope you have a fantastic wedding and a happy marriage.
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1. listen to each other
ReplyDelete2. give each other space for individuality
thanks for the lovely giveaway and have a wonderful wedding and great marriage.
greetings from Germany
Congratulations on you upcoming wedding. My advice would be to be yourself ... for that is who he fell in love with.
ReplyDeleteDon't try to change him or control everything. Think before you say something, particularly during a disagreement. Try to build up rather than tear down.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! I hope you are blessed in your marraige.
The fat quarters look lovely!
Sorry no marriage advice! Since I'm not married I feel I wouldn't be able to give you any good advice. I will however congratulate you on your upcoming wedding. I hope it's going to be a wonderful day for you :-)
ReplyDeleteThe fabrics are lovely
have two tips....communication and finding something to do that both of you enjoy together and making a point to do it often.
ReplyDeletevery cute fabrics, very cheerful.
Just remember that it's not always important to look lovingly into each other's eyes...but it is important to be looking out in the same direction...Good luck and thanks for the chance!
ReplyDeleteWhat the others said -- give each other space! And be open about things that are bothering you, but NOT so much that it's a big ordeal ("great, what's today's 'we need to talk about my feelings' moment?" is a good way to make someone try to avoid the conversation!) And make them feel useful. (In my house, it's a bit out of the stereotypical gender roles... he had me come dispatch a bug for him this morning... but at least I feel useful!)
ReplyDeleteCongrats on your upcoming marriage! I've been happily married for 7 years and think that the most important thing is to remain best friends. Talk to each other and never go to bed angry. Don't forget to tell him that you love him. Good luck :)
ReplyDeleteLove these fabrics, by the way!
If you focus on loving him and taking care of him, and he does the same for you, you will both be well taken care of! Congratulations!
ReplyDeleteBest wishes - and best advice: Remember to have fun, relax and don't imagine everything is going to go as planned. It's the unexpected things that make the memories.
ReplyDeleteCongrats on the upcoming wedding.
ReplyDeleteAs long as he figures out that you are always right, everything will be fine!
Congratulations on your marriage!
ReplyDeleteMy advice is to try and be as kind and caring as possible (even if you don't feel like it!), it will all get paid back to you in lots of love and affection from your hubby and you will have a long, loving relationship!
(20 years married in November!)
20 days! Congratulations. How exciting. I think the key to a happy marriage is honesty. Simple, but very important!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!
ReplyDeleteMy husband frequently says, "Marriage is when you choose the person you want to drive crazy for the rest of your life." I often tell him he's doing an excellent job! Humor helps at all times; it also helps to know who has which strengths so that divvying up responsibilities and sharing power happens gracefully. And as some of the others said already, a kind word goes a long way too.
Don't go to bed angry!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the giveaway!
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My advice is to go to bed mad! Don't try to fight or discuss things into the wee hours, in the morning you won't care and you'll be tired!
ReplyDeletethanks for the giveaway! the fabric is gorgeous! and congrats on getting married! i hope you and your hubby have a wonderful life together. as for advice - be sure to tell him how much you appreciate and love him. also, start and end your day with a kiss!
ReplyDeleteDon't let things stew…If theres a problem don't keep it in, better to let the other person know how you are feeling right away before resentment sets in. You'd be surprised how often they didn't even realize something bothered you!
ReplyDeleteTwo cookie jars :-) that was advice I was given. We share our "goodies" pretty well so we don't have two cookie jars, but we do have two bathrooms.
ReplyDeleteOMG...it's Christmas in blogland!! I would love to win your Give Away! Thanks so much for the chance!! Advice on a happy marriage....always say Yes, dear and then do what you want!! ;o)
ReplyDeleteTake care!!
Paulette
I've been married 23 years - just never give up - marriage has to be worked at - but above all - ENJOY!!
ReplyDeleteGill
Do small things for him. Little ways of letting him know that you think about him. Bake him his favorite cupcakes or buy him a card... guys love those things, even if they don't show it that much.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the giveaway
escuishi (at)hotmail.com
Be honest and have fun. Make ways to enjoy each other
ReplyDeleteHave respect for one another, and try to find time for one another. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
ReplyDeletemake time for each other, and pray together often.
ReplyDeleteHope your big day is fantastic.
I wanted to give you a piece of advice for your wedding day. Only you know if it's not perfect, or how you imagined it so just go and have the time of your life. Let the little things that go wrong just roll off your back. It poured and hailed for our outdoor wedding, the flowers were wrong (and dropped off before I got there so there was nothing I could do), my dad forgot the checkbook at the hotel so my brother missed an hour of the reception to get it. But I have the time of my life!
ReplyDeleteAnd make time for each other, every day.
Congrats! Lets see, Don't pick up after him! Train him from the start!
ReplyDeleteCongrats! My advice is to daily do something to make your hubby know you love him! Sounds sooo simple I know but after the first couple of years its easy to get in a rut! Thanks for the giveaway!
ReplyDeleteTry to always put the other person first. If you're selfless (or trying to be) none of the other problems will be problems.
ReplyDeleteCheck out my fabric giveaway at http://pitterputterstitch.blogspot.com.
The best advice I can give is make sure your husband is your best friend. Good luck with your wedding! Enjoy every minute - it goes by so fast!
ReplyDeleteGiving and taking would be my advice. It's hard to think about a relationship in those terms on a daily basis but it's important. Congratulations~
ReplyDeleteBe sure to do the little things that are important to him, even if those things aren't important to you. Thanks for the giveaway!
ReplyDeleteLaugh.
ReplyDeleteA lot.
Love.
A lot.
Talk.
A lot.
Those three things will get you through anything.
Congratulations.
And thanks for the giveaway.
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I know you've hear this before, but make sure you have some romantic time to spend together but also spend some time alone as well. Good luck.
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Encourage each other's hobbies. It's okay to spend time doing things you love even if your hubby can't do it with you.
ReplyDeleteTry to listen more than you talk. And really listen. Don't jump ahead and assume you always know exactly what he's talking about. And sometimes, even when you do, it's nice to let the man finish his thought. :)
ReplyDeleteAlso, don't be afraid to do all of those little things that only the 2 of you enjoy or appreciate. Even if everyone else in the free world thinks you're weird or dorky for liking that stuff.
Blessings on your marriage!
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Listen to understand instead of to respond. Realize/remember that your husband can't "complete" you, only Jesus can.
ReplyDeleteCongrats! It's cheesy, but treat him how you want to be treated. It's amazing how this works!
ReplyDeleteMarry the person that you love so much that it can withstand the times you hate each other. Because marriage isn't a fairytale. I've been married 18 years. Good Luck and may God bless your marriage.
ReplyDeleteIt's what everyone will tell you, but communication. Make sure that you guys are open with each other and talk about everything.
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Best wishes on your upcoming wedding! Just do your best, and you'll be fine. Here's the only piece of specific advice I have for you: don't expect him to be able to read your mind. If there's something you want him to know, tell him directly. Throwing confetti at you, here in Kingston, Ontario.
ReplyDeleteLaugh. As often as possible, with each other. Like really often- several times each day.
ReplyDeleteHey! I'm in SC, too. Best advice: ALWAYS think of the other person first and want the best for that person. That way you can move past your current emotion and know that the longterm result of this momentary decision is what is important. You want to look back over your life and have as few regrets with a quick temper or selfish moments that you can. I tell you this from experience! I'd like a few moments of do-over time.
ReplyDeleteNice giveaway fabrics. I have participated in the SMS giveaway the past two years, but this one snuck up on me. You'll have to drop my my blog, too, and let me know what part of SC you are in. I'm in Lexington. -- michele
Thanks for the giveaway, so cute!
ReplyDeleteMy advice is to take everyone's advice with a grain of salt. A lot of people want to tell you how you should do things, and only you know what works in your life.
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Understand that there will be times that you can't stand to even be near the person you married. Understand, too, that this feeling will pass & usually very quickly. Don't say anything you'll regret forever while you feel this way.
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My best advice for marriage, is to be flexible. I used to thrive on structure and schedules, when you have someone else in the house that can put a kink in the schedules. Go with the flow.
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Don't expect him to do things that same way as you would, but appreciate the gesture.
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely giveaway! I would love to be entered and thrilled if I won.
ReplyDeleteMy advice is to give 110% to make each day great.
Cute fabric- hope I win it!
ReplyDeleteI've been married for 11 yrs, and my advice would be to make sure you have at least one hobby/interest you share together and spend time doing it at least once a week.
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Make sure the two of you have fun together! It really helps.
ReplyDeleteCongrats to you! Today is our 7th anniversary. My advice is to talk a lot and make sure he makes you laugh!
ReplyDeleteKristin.Heaney@gmail.com
Remember that love is not a feeling, it is a choice.
ReplyDeleteMy grandparents advise to us was to each put the other one's needs first. They have done this for their whole marriage and are very happy still. We have tried to follow this advise and aside from them we are the happiest couple I know. Good luck to you both!
ReplyDeleteBefore and after kids (if you intend on adding to the household that is. *wink*) have one night a week where you and the spouse go out on a date. I tis a must to have some down time together.
ReplyDeleteCongrats!!
ReplyDeleteLaugh and have lots of fun. And be honest. Always.
Good luck!
jesslinq at gmail dot com
Marry your best friend.
ReplyDeletesandie@sleepyowlstudio.com
yellow is my favorite, so i'd love to win these fabrics.
ReplyDeletei just got married a year ago...i think the best advice is to forgive quickly.
i love the flower print!
ReplyDeletean advice? Just be lucky and do what you like to do!
Congratulations. My best advice is overlook the small stuff. Button your lip, stop for a minute and consider before you speak.
ReplyDeleteNever take your relationship for granted, always be prepared to work at it. Spend a lot of time doing silly stuff that you both enjoy.
ReplyDeleteCongradulations! My advice is to try to treat your husband with respect, even when sometimes you may not feel he deserves it. Also, tell each other something you appreciate each evening before bed, it could be big or small, just something.
ReplyDeleteNow on to the giveaway - Oh my goodness, these fabrics are yummy. I would love to put them to good use. Thanks, hope to win :)
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Congratulations! I hope you have a wonderful wedding and a blissful marriage.
ReplyDeletemy advice is not to let the little things build up. Either decide that you can live with them or address them right away.
jillybean7681@gmail.com
Make sure you carve out some time together each week (a date night). Its easy to get bogged down in life, and children... and forget about the man you married. Its important that you keep time together a priority! Make it a habit.
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Congrats on your upcoming marriage! :D
ReplyDeleteHmmm, my advice is...don't get upset over things like how they squeeze the toothpaste, or that he might not shut the cabinet door. Those are too small but if you don't let go of them, they'll fester. Also, remember to breathe. Sometimes when life gets stressful, whether it is good stress like getting married, buying a house, having a baby, or bad stress like the loss of a loved one, or being over worked. Never forget to take a few deep breaths. They really do calm you down. :)
cute fabrics, i love plaids! best wishes on your upcoming marriage! pray together, that i my advice...i often fall asleep during our pray at night, but i love this habit we have gotten into!
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Congrats on your upcoming wedding! I'd say that make sure you listen to your partner...not just wait to talk but really listen to them! Also, I find when my husband and I get a bit upset it's best to take a "time out" for an hour or so before we talk about what we were upset about. It gives us time to calm down, collect our thoughts and not just be angry..
ReplyDeletecongrats! I would say just to make sure you still find time for yourself!
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Have fun!!
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Thank you for the chance to win a great prize. My advice would be to do your own thing sometimes. It's good to have your own space :) Good luck and congrats!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great giveaway! Congratulations on your wedding. A great tip is to always talk through things and keep the communications going, even if things are strained. Almost any problem can be worked out just by talking and listening. We all have our faults and we also change over time. You have to grow together and love each other the way you are. I was married at 18 and I've been happily married for 14.5 years. I love my husband more each day.
ReplyDeleteCompromise would be my word of advice. Goodluck!
ReplyDeletelindsay.forgette(at)gmail(dot)com
I've been married for 5 1/2 years, my best piece of advice..talk. I've always held things in and learning that doesn't always work :)
ReplyDeletecrystalball137[at]hotmail[dot]com
Be honest with each other and don't keep secrets. It's worked for us for ten years now! Congratulations!!! I hope you have a wonderful life together!
ReplyDeleteGo to las vegas, marry, and then tell your freinds at a big barbecue...
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion the most important thing in a relationship is respect. I hope your marriage will be a happy one :)
ReplyDeletebytesizedpieces (at) gmail.com
The good old Golden Rule is the best - always treat your spouse as you would want to be treated! Best Wishes!
ReplyDeletehave a weekly date night once you have kids!!
ReplyDeleteCongrats on your upcoming nuptials!
how perfect! i'm just starting to get into quilting! my advice is that when an argument does arise between you, always address the other person as "honey", "sweetheart", or another term of endearment. it puts everything in perspective!
ReplyDeleteGreat giveaway! Please count me in!
ReplyDeleteCongrats on your upcoming wedding!
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Congratulations!!! And thanks for the giveaway! I'm not (officially) married yet, but I've been with my boyfriend, or common-law partner, for 5.5 years, 3 of them living together. We just bought a house together last year, so we are pretty much married by all intents and purposes. The most important thing is to be open and honest with one another, and my grandma always told me to never go to sleep angry with each other! Congrats again on your upcoming wedding and years and years of wedded bliss! =)
ReplyDeleteAs advised on my wedding day by my grandfather, married 50+ years, "It's not worth a fight."
ReplyDeleteWorking well for us so far!
All the best!
Never go to bed angry and NEVER leave without saying goodbye and "I love you!" Congrats on your wedding!!
ReplyDeletecrissybell17(at)gmail(dot)com
Give each other space! Don't cling! I will be celebrating 30 years in Nov.! Good luck to both of us. You with your wedding and me with this giveaway!
ReplyDeleteKeep on dating each other. make time every week for just the two of you to be alone.
ReplyDeleteCongrats! In full disclosure, I'm not married, but my 7 year relationship is going well largely because my partner and I give each other time to pursue our passions. Sometimes together but more often apart. It gives us something to talk about and be excited for each other about.
ReplyDeleteHi there! Congrats on your upcoming nuptials!!! My piece of advice is to just remember at the end of the day- you love each other. And that's all that matters- no matter what problems might come up :)
ReplyDeletebettyrockit at gmail dot com
Congrats to you!!
ReplyDeletePrior to a fight pick a word that will make you laugh...ours is farfignoughan (sp). When we are arguing over something silly...one of us says this (usually him) and you can't help but laugh then you can talk it out.
Make sure the last words you say are "I love you" before you go to sleep or before leaving.
megan.zahn@gmail.com
Congrats! Remember the wedding is just one day. The marriage is what it's really about. Always remember what made you want to get married in the first place. There will be good days and bad days. The good days get you through the bad days.
ReplyDeleteOh, this fabric is so pretty and happy! Congrats on getting married. I rather like the Old Testament newlywed practice of taking the first year off of everything, building a good foundation for life. Since that is not possible today, I say, take the first year and don't get too busy. Come home each night and eat supper together, go for a walk together, do housework together, etc.
ReplyDeletemarriage is wonderful, congrats, you will love it!
ReplyDeletemy best advice is this, learn to recognize when you are disappointed vs. mad. A lot of times I am just disappointed in how a situation turned out and not actually angry and he thinks I am mad at him, if I just say "hey I'm really disappointed that you have to work late when we had an awesome date night planned. I am not mad at you just disappointed with the situation." It saves a lot of drama.
leighDOTonedayatatimeATgmailDOTcom
The best (lol) marital advice I've ever gotten... "Windex cleans everything!" lol... ok that being said, I hope this is not taken as being too racey but shower together on occasion (especially if you need a chat but are having trouble communicating)... something about being in such a small space seems to get us to talk openly. :)
ReplyDeletePS Dance a lot at your wedding! Good luck!
emedoodle@yahoo.com
Congrats! My advise is to go to sleep angry... Ok, so if you are both tired and grumpy, trying to work things out before you go to sleep probably isn't going to be very productive. In the morning after you are both rested, you will probably have a more productive conversation about whatever you were upset about in the first place.
ReplyDeleteAdvice: laugh and have fun together because you need something to pull from when you need to get through the sad times.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the generous giveaway. Like the fabric colors. mlwright29 (at) hotmail (dot) com
talk to each other and try not to take little things like doing the dishes for granted. Thanks for doing the giveaway and best wishes on your wedded life together
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!
ReplyDeleteAfter 36 years of marriage I have learned that you must Be Kind! to yourself AND to your spouse.
Be nice to each other!
ReplyDeleteI would just say to have fun and keep talking to each other. Marriage is wonderful :)
ReplyDeleterach62803@yahoo.com
remember marriage is hard work...you choose to love everyday! Try to give more than you recieve.
ReplyDeletesntbosch@msn.com
life is busy. and it is really easy to let it get in the way of spending time together, especially after you have kids. spend time together and remember why you fell in love in the first place
ReplyDeleteCommunication is very important. Congrats and have fun!
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I love Plaid! It should be a color, and not a pattern.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, open and honest communication is key. Mostly about money, thoughts feelings, but especially in the bedroom. Never be afraid to explore within reason. If there's tension there, it's just going to multiply other issues in the marriage.
well I've only been married for just about 6 years but the best advice I have is to discuss how you are going to deal with money before you get married. Money issues are a huge cause of divorce so that was something we really hashed out before we got married... it's saved a lot of arguments now!
ReplyDeleteI've been married for a bit over a year and I think the fact that we sit down to dinner, just the two of us, at the table almost every night and have a conversation is really important. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteGreat giveaway - thanks!
jmhamlin826 AT yahoo DOT com
Congratulations! I'm getting married in a little under five months so I don't have any advice other than- good luck!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! My husband and I have a little sign in our room that says, "Don't go to bed mad, Stay up and fight!" :)
ReplyDeleteI'm getting married this summer too! July 24th. My key to a great marriage would be just to marry your best friend. Then you'll never run out of things to talk about and it'll be great! congratulations!
ReplyDeletedont assume, ask. youre married not psychic.
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Congrats on your wedding!
ReplyDeleteMy advice is to choose your battles! My hubby doesn't wash the back of plates when he does dishes (which drives me crazy), but I don't say anything b/c I am just glad he is doing the dishes!
Beautiful fabrics! Thanks for the giveaway. And congrats on your wedding.
ReplyDeleteMy advice is make sure you have common interests and spend time together doing these activities together.
Congratulations! My advice is for your wedding day--take a moment to step back, take a deep breath, and enjoy the day. Good luck to you.
ReplyDeleteI've been married nearly 30 years. My advice is to forget this piece of advice "never go to bed angry". Forget that one! Sometimes it is better to go to bed angry! Once you've had some rest and distance from whatever the disagreement is, you can see it with new eyes and a cooler head--and often you'll think, gee, what was the fuss about? Hope you have a lifetime of happiness with your true love!
ReplyDeleteHey-and thanks for the chance to win that lovely fabric!
COMMUNICATE!
ReplyDeletepick your battles, don't let EVERYTHING bother you! Grace, give lots of grace!!!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the chance!!
The thing that made my wedding preparation go well was that if either my now-husband or I were stressed out, we would both stop whatever we were working on and have a glass of wine together. It made for a much less stressful lead-up to the wedding. We've been able to continue that low-key attitude into our marriage as well, which has been fabulous!
ReplyDeleteAs someone that is unmarried first allow me to say-- jealous! I have been dating mine for 9 years. Ouch.
ReplyDeleteI would say never go to bed angry. Leave whatever fight you are having at your bedroom door. You can pick it back up in the morning when you exit but you both need a truce space.
Congrats. Just remember talk often, laugh often and always love.
ReplyDeleteTry to laugh everyday!!! Congrats! Hope to win!
ReplyDeleteWe've been married for almost 37 years. Advice? Be faithful, be forgiving, be friends. Thanks for entering me.
ReplyDeleteBest advice - never go to bed angry!
ReplyDeletenhsarab at yahoo dot com
Honesty and a sense of humour ! Can't be too hard can it?? Thanks for this generous opportunity, an d all the best for your wedding XX
ReplyDeletegreat giveaway, count me in!
ReplyDeletejamiemueller0522@yahoo.com
oh how wonderful, I hope you have a great wedding!! My only advice is just to marry your best friend (which I'm sure you're already doing!)
ReplyDeleteCongrats! Definitely choose your battles. Also, if he suggests that he'll take over cleaning the kitchen if you take over mowing the yard, do it. 'Cause ya can't go out and mow while it's raining, but he can still do the dishes... ;)
ReplyDeleteThe best advice that I got when I got married was to always sleep in a double bed. It is hard to be mad at your partner if you have to sleep so close (it has worked for me)!
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you will never be sorry for always saying i love you when you say goodbye--eitiher in person or on the phone. also doing loving things for your spouse and others always does great things for yourself too!! have a great marriage!
ReplyDeletenever go to bed angry...
ReplyDeletebest advice I ever got!
Please enter me in the draw and don't forget to enter mine!
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whoohoo...marriage is awesome! Cherish each other and don't talk to other people about your marital issues. If there is something you love, or something you don't, always tell your spouse (in a kind way of course). Avoid hurting feelings. If something isn't a big deal, then let it go. My husband and I have only been married 4 years, but we've never had an argument. There have been times when we don't exactly agree about something (like tying the garbage bag closed or just tossing it opened...big deal, not really), but all the important stuff like our values and family goals are the same. Honesty and kindness are critical to a happy marriage.
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After almost 26 years my advice is to remember why you married in the first place- Congratulations! t.herin@smha.com
ReplyDeleteMy response is actually to Sare who suggested not to talk to other people about your marital issues. I don't think this is very safe. Support your friends to support you thats what I always say. Talkn to your friends will give you good perspective and support!
ReplyDeleteGo to all of the marriage enrichment things you can! Congratulations on your upcoming marriage! My honey and I are celebrating our 10th next month. It's not bliss every day at all, but even on the toughest days I wouldn't trade him in for anyone else.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the chance to enter!
-mab
mab(at)onepost(dot)net
Great to discover your blog through this giveaway! :o)
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Been married almost 16 years. Remember just because he does something different than you doesn't mean that it's not as good as you!
ReplyDeleteCongrats to you two! Very exciting and you are hosting a giveaway! 10 years here and we got this advice 10 yrs ago... Communication! We are still on our honeymoon, we explore life together - we understand and live the "Two Become One" We are one and it's great! We still flirt with each other (cautious around the kids), Remember what made us fall in love and keep that priority, this site helps too: http://www.winningathome.com/ Thanks for doing this with all you have going on!
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Jackie (at) jackiesue.com
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Hmm great marriage tips... I would say never go to bed angry but I am guilty of that and I love my DH. Probably ecpect the marriage to sometimes be hard work. If you are angry tell your DH and talk about your needs, but remember he has needs too and since marriage is a partnership you need to comprimise sometimes. :) Happy Marriage!
ReplyDeleteI would say that no matter what (kids, in-laws, holidays, etc) take time to have a "date night" each week. You don't even have to leave the house, just an hour or two to catch up with eachother (without interuptions) is a great reminder as to why you married your love in the first place :o)...good luck!!
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I've been married for 23 years. You've already gotten some great advice but I'll reiterate one of them. Remember that just because he does things different than you doesn't mean that his way is wrong.
ReplyDeleteDon't expect everything to be peaches and cream. Especially a few years down the road. If you can get thru the tough times, you'll be so happy together! Assuming of course that he's as willing as you to work things out... I hope you are very happy together!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the giveaway!
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Congradulations on the coming wedding!! :D My advise is to learn to compromise. You will end up doing a lot to have a good marriage :D
ReplyDeleteAha! A word of advice about marriage!!! Just remember,
ReplyDeleteIts always about "we",
no "you" and "me"...
that will make the path
simpler for thee...
All the best...
Shruti (India)
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage. Yikes...advice? Remember that we're all doing the best we can. When he's a jerk, remember that we're all jerks sometimes.
ReplyDeleteI hope that you have a long and happy life together.
Congratulations! The best piece of advice I received was not to go to bed angry. It's not easy sometimes, but so much better than the alternative. Best wishes. Thanks for the giveaway!
ReplyDeleteHonesty is the most important thing for my husband and I. Once you start keeping things from eachother it'll only get worse. Good luck to you!
ReplyDeleteGreat giveaway! I'm not married, so I don't have any advice to give. But congratulations and good luck in the next few weeks...and remember to enjoy it!
ReplyDeleteCongrats! Let him treat you like a queen!
ReplyDeletecynsaw2@hotmail.com
Congrats on your marriage! I would say to listen good! And don't sweat the small stuff (and it's all small stuff!!!)
ReplyDeleteCongrats! My advice? Listening to each other is key. Nothing like feeling you weren't heard or your feelings weren't considered.
ReplyDeleteHave something that you both love to do together. Even if it's just watching movies every Friday night. It's too easy to go in different directions.
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Congratulations! Compromise is key to a good relationship.
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Congrats on your upcoming wedding! I've been married for eight years, and my biggest piece of advice is be each other's best friend. Your friendship will get you through the good times and bad!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! My first advice is wedding advice. I was asked if I wanted the top layer to go into the freezer to eat in a year...gross. I said no. What I SHOULD have done was had it waiting in my hotel room after the wedding! I was starved and realized I only got one bite of my cake. grrrr
ReplyDeleteMarriage advice. Pick your fights. If it's a little thing don't bother and definitely don't hold a grudge. Also remember that things and people are always changing. Try to go with the flow.
regina.lowe at gmail.com
sorry, no advice about a marriage due to i wouldn´t know what i am talking about :-) BUT:
ReplyDeleteall the best to you and your husband-to-be, live a long and wonderful life as a couple!!
claudia
Such cute summery fabrics! I would love to win them!
ReplyDeleteHmm, advice for a good marriage? I've only been married 2 years, but I can try! The best advice I can think of is to just understand each other's strengths and weaknesses. That way you know what to rely on each other for, and what not to get too frustrated about.
Congrats, and have fun at the wedding!
annie@gluegunannie.com
Congratulations!
ReplyDeleteWe're going on 4 years and are still super happy together. Plan to just grow better together!
Always listen - don't assume you're right and railroad the other person.
Never say "you always/you never..."
Listen some more! All the best!
great fabric giveaway and congrats! my husband and i just passed our one year anniversary! my advice would be to always have your "date nights" to spice things up!
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Let your husband have a motorcycle, and get one yourself! We ride Triumphs and love the bikes.
ReplyDeleteFollow your dreams, but don't have one person making all of the sacrifices. We move to Turkey in a month so I can follow my dream, but we have spent five years in Portland, OR, so my husband can follow his. Sometimes you need to take turns.
Aha! Never go to bed with an argument unresolved. You might need to take time to cool down, but talk it out and don't let it fester!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your wedding!
fruitandfoliage@gmail.com
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage! Mr. MoonCat & I have been married just over 1 1/2 years now. We have two things that seem to work for us:
ReplyDelete1) When we fight, we can tell each other "I don't like you very much right now, but I do love you." We then take a break from the argument which gives us both a breather and lets us think about what we want to tell each other when we're calmer.
2) Talk TO each other. not AT each other.
Most of all, enjoy each other!!!
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! My piece of advice would be to always keep talking - don't let an argument stew and fester because you didn't tell him how you felt! Thanks for the chance to win such fun and summery fabrics!
ReplyDeleteCute fabrics! I haven't been married yet, so I can't give you first hand advice, but I know communication in super important in all relationships. Also, don't get too attached to your idea of who your spouse used to be. Everybody grows and changes over time and comparing your spouse (or anyone else) to their former self will only make you both unhappy. Just love all the moments. Thanks for sharing :-)
ReplyDeleteCute fabrics!! I would say the key to happy marriage if openness, honesty, and compromise. You should truly want the best for the other person and he should bring out the best things in you!
ReplyDeleteThose are great colors.
ReplyDeleteMy advice is to always make time for the two of you as a couple. You need to keep your relationship strong and not forget to take care of each other. Date night is a great plan.:)
jennlindsay1@gmail.com
Always kiss back.
ReplyDeleteI'm not married but I always follow one piece of my mum's advice with my boyfriend - never bring up a problem when he's got an empty stomach! Dinner first, discussion second :)
ReplyDeleteLovely giveaway!
maz_wilde(at)hotmail(dot)com
Marriage advice...I'm coming up on my first anniversary, but let's see...
ReplyDelete1. Say I love you whenever you end a conversations...on the phone or in person, even if you're just walking into the other room
2. Never go to bed angry. If nothing else, stay up late until you're both silly and have a tickle-fight, then go to bed.
3. Be your husband's cheerleader. Seriously. Guys feel like they're hiding the fact that they're faking their way through life/their job/whatever from the rest of the world. Tell your friend about the nice thing your hubby did, or build him up in front of others. And when he comes home, don't attack him. He needs to feel safe with you. :)
emmafreester [at] gmail [dot] com
Oh, congratulations on the upcoming nuptials! I think a really important thing to maintain in marriage is communication. You need to tell each other regularly how you're feeling, what's going through your mind, how much you love each other, what your worries are, etc.
ReplyDeleteYou might even find that you need to set time aside once a month to go and sit at a nice cafe and talk through how you think your marriage is going.
All the best!
Deb
debyeo at hotmail dot com
What awesome fabrics. Thanks for the awesome giveaway!
ReplyDeleteHmm, my piece of advice is to try to laugh with him about something everyday. And also take the time to listen to each other about your day. Never take each other for granted!
rayamashita(at)yahoo(dot)com
What a lovely giveaway!! I'm a marriage educator, so I have HEAPS of advice, but I will be restrained ;-) 10 minutes a day dedicated to talking to each other about how your day was is way more romantic in the long run than a fancy dinner once a month! And remind yourselves at least once a week of 3 things that you admire about your partner - that way when you have conflict, it's easier to remember that there's other bits of them that you really like, even if the most obvious aspect is not very likable at the time!! Wishing you a healthy, long and fruitful marriage x
ReplyDeletemy biggest tip is to sleep on it. They say don't go to bed angry, but in my marraige by the time we wake up we are over it! Hope that helps!
ReplyDeleteI'm not married so i don't really feel qualified to offer advice on this but I've found with my boyfriend (that lives with me) that supporting each others goals leads to ongoing mutual respect and affection in our relationship.
ReplyDeleteCongrats on you upcoming marriage.
My man and I have been together for 40 years in September and it hasn't all been plain sailing! Give and take is really, really important, if you love him for what he is now, don't try to change him and the old saying of don't go to bed on an argument is true.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations and good luck.
Lizzie
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You know, there is not a simple answer, but one thing besides loving each other that my husband and I agreed upon from the start was to always show respect to each other.
ReplyDeletecount me in, please!!
ReplyDeletethanks for this lovely giveaway :)))
just remember why you married him in the first place and life is so short.. make it count!
ReplyDeleterespect each other in everything you do. Great giveaway, I also have some summer fabrics to grab on my blog :) http://bleuvanille.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteThanks for the chance to win.
Greetings from Montreal, Quebec, Canada
sophie(at)bleuvanille(dot)com
I just got married in September so I'm a rookie really. My advice would be to go to bed angry if it means preventing saying something hurtful...don't listen to that 'never go to bed angry' malarkey.
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alli b
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We've been married for 8 years, together for 14, and for us, it's been to never give up on one another. You will annoy each other, you will get on each others nerves, but as long as you keep hold of your love you can get past it. Stressful times make this hard ;) but we've made it through 3 babies in 3 years, while remodeling a house!
ReplyDeletecongratulations to you! thanks for the chance to win. come see me at my blog, I'm giving away a notebook!
My first marriage broke down after 12 years together because one partner didn't care as much about the needs of the other. My 2nd is going on 4 and I can see us together cranky and wrinkled LOL.
ReplyDeleteMy suggestion? Take the word Partner to heart. Partners support you, give you advice, tell you when you are wrong, comfort you and take care of you. Be one, and make sure your new husband understands what it is to be one as well. It's hard work, it sucks sometimes, but in the end, that's your best friend, the person that knows you best in the whole world, so when they tell you something, you should believe it, coming as it does from your other half.
Other advice, discuss your day. Do it in bed, with the lights off. It's most conducive to saying what you really think/feel when you don't have to gauge the reactions off of your partners face/body. Discuss what went right, what went wrong, what you'd like to change and why. This helps especially as children come along and your brain isn't working as well as normal!
spiralowlcreations at gmail dot com
alot of patience!
ReplyDeleteand try to always give the relationship more time more energy even when there are kids in the picture
never take for granted
thanks!
Wow, what great prints. As far as marriage advice, I would say always remind yourself that your spouse loves you, especially when you are angry with your spouse. I find I can't stay mad long when I think about how much I know he loves me and that the argument is most likely over something very minute when compared to that love.
ReplyDeleteForget the "don't go to sleep angry" advice. Plenty of fights happen because one or both spouses are tired and cranky, not because there's a real issue that needs resolving. Get a good night's sleep, then if you still feel passionate about the issue, discuss it in the morning.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!
always remember he is your best friend,Live well, Laugh much, love often never go to bed angry, leave work problems by the front door, enjoy every minute you are together.
ReplyDeleteopps forgot this part, sorry
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Congratas on your upcoming marriage may your lives be filled with love always :)
ReplyDeleteI have been married 7 years and i think the reason i have a great marriage is honesty..its not always easy but letting know how you really feel no matter how good or bad can really help your other half understand you..
All the best to this new phase in your life
I've only been married a little over a year myself but the best advice I can give is to talk often, listen good and laugh a lot. I've found our marriage has gone from strength to strength through sharing everything: good times, bad times, jokes and adventures. All the bets on your 'big day'.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all: congratulations :)
ReplyDeleteMy advice is to take time for yourself and also time for each other. And remember to tell each other what you're thinking, normal people can't read minds ;)
Cute fabric!
ReplyDelete1. God centered marriage (This is the hard part because we are usually selfish)
2. Listen well (Sometimes problems come from miscommunication)
3. Respect him (He needs to feel admired, just like you need to feel cherished)
4. Adore him (Guys love to know that you only have eyes for him)
5. Always date him! (That's the fun part-Be creative)
1. make time to get out of the house for a date every week... it could be a walk, coffee, dinner, etc., but get out together
ReplyDelete2. try to figure out what all of your expectations (family dinner, gender roles etc.) are, discuss them as a couple, and release them so that you aren't holding yourselves hostage to them
3. compromise
4. try to out serve each other
5. don't compare yourself, your spouse, or your marriage to anyone else... you are unique
shannon.mangerchine(at)gmail(dot)com
Crazy-cute giveaway! Thank you for putting together this creatively awesome prize! Marriage advice from a divorcée? Are you sure you want that? Okay, you have to have the EXACT same views on a couple of things: money, religion, and children.
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WOW, what a wonderful idea!
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Kind regards from Germany
Claudia alias frauknopf@gmx.de
I'm married for 32 years now....never forget to laugh together
My advice - always make time for a date night (this is especially important if you have children). You don't even have to go out - just spend time together alone. DH and I did this for years by just picking a tv show to watch one night a week and always doing it (it always led to us talking afterwards). It was great together time that made us concentrate on each other. Going out is great too and we would do that once a month.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the giveaway!
Being married is the hardest job you will ever do. Always treat your husband with respect and know that it won't be fun all of the time but it is a blessing. Congrats!
ReplyDeleteLovely! My first bit of advice--don't expect your husband to read your mind--go ahead and tell him what you are thinking, feeling--don't try to make him figure it out. Because chances are, he won't. :) Best wishes!!
ReplyDeleteI would say my best marriage advice is to always be careful of how you speak to each other. I think once a mean thing is said, you can apologize but it can't be unsaid. You should be as respectful as possible and never take each other for granted. Oh, and laugh a lot, that is the best part.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on getting married. I'm married 3 and a half yrs and love every minute of it! My tip for a good marriage is to just enjoy it and stay exciting that you are spending the rest of your life with the one you love. My top tip for you actual wedding day is to make some time to actually spend together (it'll probably only be 5 mins or so) but sneak off and enjoy being together on your special day, it just goes so fast!
ReplyDeleteGorgeous fabrics, hope I win!!
Thanks for the chance to enter. xo
karibgillespie at gmail dot com
congratulations on gettingmarried. i've been married nearly 5yrs so i'm no expert but... i think honesty and being 'silly' - laughing a lot is good
ReplyDeleteand i love your fabrics!
My best piece of marriage advice?? Understand that men are naturally messy.. It's like having another child.. If you just keep that in mind you won't mind the underwear on the door knob, the socks in the bed, but crumbs in the butter, lol!! Congratulations!
ReplyDeleteshelly.potter(at)hotmail(dot)com
Laugh--mostly at yourself. Apologize--often, if necessary. Try to remember how good it feels now, so when you're having a moment--and you will--it puts everything in perspective. Many congratulations to you! It's an awesome adventure! Thanks for the chance to win the awesome fabric!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your upcoming wedding! The best advice I have is to remember you are marrying your best friend and always treat him as such. Good luck and thanks for the chance for these beautiful fabrics!
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